Uncovering Marriage, Part 4- "With The Lights On" The greatest and most elusive thing in marriage is intimacy. It is without question, both, the largest strength and problem in marriages all around us. When we have it, our marriages are amazing. When we don’t have it, our marriages are in jeopardy. One thing remains true, when we have it with the lights on it’s better with the lights off. <b>Sunday, March 16, 2008</b>